There is a painful question many of us eventually have to ask ourselves: Why do I keep wanting the people who won’t fully choose me? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. We say we want consistency, honesty, and commitment, yet we find ourselves emotionally attached to people who give us uncertainty instead. We chase…

Most people don’t stay because of who someone is. They stay because of who they believe that person could become. We tell ourselves that once they heal, mature, communicate better, commit, or finally recognize our worth, everything will fall into place. We become emotionally invested in a future version of someone while quietly ignoring the…